There is a common belief in actual behavioral science: some people saying No to a child during their learning years could be good to set the children’s self limits and acceptance of the external world.

I’m no more a child, but I try to keep alive my inner child, when possible. When i’m deeply into some analytical task, having an alive child inside with all his creativity and lateral thought can be very useful to get new thesis to analyze.

What happens when errors and bad experiences in life force this little guy to stay silent? All the inner team get depressed and it’s difficult to get them back.

I know when I’m not ready for a jump, and I also know that I don’t have to tell anybody that I’m planning some kind of jump: because when someone know that you are trying to jump somewhere it’s natural their try to influence the normal flow of things.

They try to encourage you, they say what’s right and what’s is not right. They even say “yeah! it’s time for you to try“. And when you trust people, and you try, and you fail, there is just you and your self to deal with the failure.

as Adam said some days ago, keeping things inside is painful, but most of the times does the job. Then what happens if after too many things kept inside you start losing some people? and what happens when even if you are trying, you lose anyway people during your journey? This is happening to me, and I don’t know where this road is going.

But failing with my own decision is better than failing for other people’s decisions.

Update: Fred says that’s better to not hurt back. Again: someone should dig into our decisioning system to understand when you are receiving a False No (hint: a False No, is not equal a Yes). Maybe some historic records will help.